For the love of me

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Things I wish companies considered

With almost 10 years in the working environment, here’s my two cents worth on what I wish companies would do the excell, retain profits and have happy employees!

1. Open Door Policy

Wish that the powers that be opened better communication channels to all employees, regardless of their positions. They’d be surprised at the valuable insight the office attendant has to add to the organization. Allow employees to speak on an anonymous platform, without fear and judgement.

2. Effective Development Stratergy

Just because someone is a great sales consultant, it doesn’t necessarily mean they’ll make a good sales manager. Promoting someone into such a positon requires more than experience and loyalty. Organizations need to skill such individuals by providing managerial training, mentorship and constant coaching. A bad leasder drives away talent in an organization.

3. Cost effective operational budget.

I know of an organization that buys, white/brown sugar and artificial sweetners! They buy two types of tea and green tea. They buy three types of coffee, decaf, filters and unfiltered, different brands for each. There are no limits on personal telephones costs!! Yes, really! Organizations please read, you can’t bribe good talent by this, you will only attract the wrong kinda talent!!

4. Interpersonal relations

Yes I agree with the saying “we’re here to work and not make friends” but we don’t have to be rude and cold to each other! Knowing that your colleagues and bosses like you makes work so much easier. People often downplay this, but imagine getting stuck with people you dislike and distrust for 8 hours a day! That’s no life

5. CSI Initiatives

Another way to boost staff morale; doing good feels good, get your employees invloved. Signing a cheque and sending it off to an orphanage means nothing to employees, but them interacting with poor kids that are at the mercy of their affections will work magic on their hearts, they’ll wana do even much more than needs done.

Another extremely important fact, make your employees feel needed. Eveybody needs validation even at work! There’s more!!

Two cents worth from The Great one: MashDiva!

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Glambition – 1st thoughts; check out for comments of this post

I’m a Jo-Anne Strauss fan, so naturally when I heard she’s gona be hosting her own show I jumped for joy!

The first episode aired last night and she had a variety of guests, her first the ever so graceful Mrs MaBouwer! Damn that woman is beautiful, she sounds smart and is unapologetic about who she is! Love that. I thought she was gona discuss her secret to success but Jo-Anne kept the topic light, Mrs B spoke a bit about her family, how her ‘staff’ know that she puts family above everything else and then they jumped to talk about a powerful scent, they discussed perfurme righ there and then! I am not even sure how that interview ended and then next was a Frech man talking perfumes?? Jwalo feela!

Next guest was Sbingile Khumalo…I swear I was watching but heared and saw nothing?? Absolutely nothing!! I stayed tune and watched some more; the disadvantage of welfare tv.

Next guest was Johanna Mokoki, Jo-Anne congratulated her on winning an international business award. I thought to myself; ‘great’ here’s a woman to share her success story, santsane ke re ke shebile, BAAM! Ba buwa ka make-up and brightly coloured suits!! He banna!

Last guest was the ‘internationally acclaimed South African actress’ Terry Phetho, the one thing I picked up from this interview is that Ms Phetho likes to say ‘you know’ a lot!! At one point she said ‘you know’ five times in one sentence! Yes I was counting. She’s beautiful shem, and has class!

By the end of the show I thought to myself, oh well the show is called Glambition and maybe, just maybe women need talks shows that aren’t trying to make them powerful corporate citizens that are trying to take over the world, maybe just maybe we deserve a show dedicated to the lighter side of things, maybe we just need a show about women for women talking about women staff…

We deserve that don’t we?

Be Thankful

Be thankful that you don’t already have everything you desire,
If you did, what would there be to look forward to?

Be thankful when you don’t know something
For it gives you the opportunity to learn.

Be thankful for the difficult times.
During those times you grow.

Be thankful for your limitations
Because they give you opportunities for improvement.

Be thankful for each new challenge
Because it will build your strength and character.

Be thankful for your mistakes
They will teach you valuable lessons.

Be thankful when you’re tired and weary
Because it means you’ve made a difference.

It is easy to be thankful for the good things.
A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are
also thankful for the setbacks.

GRATITUDE can turn a negative into a positive.
Find a way to be thankful for your troubles
and they can become your blessings.

Author Unknown

How to win HER heart

want to teach you how women fall in love and exactly what you need to do to make it happen. What is the real key to how women fall in love?

The reason how women fall in love with one SPECIFIC man is easy: Women fall in love with a man who “gets” them. And I mean REALLY gets them. Women fall in love with men who get them on such a deep, emotional level… they call this a “bond” or a “connection” between them.

And no matter what happens between the two of them, this connection never breaks. She never falls out of love. Even if she tries to hide it. (Which is why you see so many beautiful, amazing women stuck with loser boyfriends… or even… in abusive relationships)

Attract Women Fast



Well, as I’ve just explained, this love bond happens when a woman feels a man “gets” her on a deep, emotional level. Trouble is, it happens differently with every woman out there. Because no two women are exactly the same. (If they were, we’d have a formula for love. And some anti-social maniacs would run around “programming” beautiful women to love them, guaranteed) This is central to how how women fall in love.

You see, making a woman fall in love with you takes a variety of different things – from the conversations you two have, to the dates you go on… even the sex! (You may not know this but when your woman has an orgasm, she releases floods of the chemical Oxytocin directly into her blood stream. This chemical fools her brain into thinking she loves you!)



This is the biggest, easiest and most important thing you must do, if you want to know how to make a woman love you: You must figure out what makes her unique… and then… talk to her in a certain, specific way that lets her know you “get” her on a deep level.

In theory, that sounds so simple, it makes perfect sense, right? Of course. Well, in execution, most men screw it up. Here are a couple of examples:



Expensive dates…

Bouquets of red roses…

Vacations to her favorite, far away place…

These are some of the common ways men like you and me try to “bribe” our ways into a woman’s heart. This doesn’t work – no amount of money can help you buy love. That is NOT how women fall in love believe me.

“Well then how are rich guys so successful with women?” I can almost hear you asking. It’s simple: Rich guys get lots of sex, because they can be flashy with their money. But when it comes to long term, lasting relationships, lots of very wealthy men end up very lonely. In fact, an even higher percentage of wealthy men have MULTIPLE divorces than lower income men. Especially when you factor in women who don’t love them… and only… married them for their money.

So make sure that – whatever you do – you keep your wallet in your pants. And you NEVER try to bribe your way into her heart.



“You look great!” “I love that dress on you!” “Wow, that’s so neat!” “You’re such a kind soul!”

On an average date, your average woman will get forty to fifty compliments. From just one man. That’s a TON of attention! For example, if you shrunk your normal first date down to just one hour… and included the time you two spend eating… every other sentence out of your mouth would be, “Wow, you’re so incredibly amazing!” (that has never been the way how women fall in love)

With all that flattery, how are you supposed to get to know her? How is she supposed to get to know you? You need to cut through the flattery, and get down to “business” – finding out what she’s really like, as a person.

And then… once you find out something she doesn’t tell EVERY guy she dates… your well-timed compliment will make her heart flutter a little faster. She’ll love you for it.

But until then, try to hold back on the sucking up. It makes you come across as a much weaker man.



You may think you treat ever woman as a unique person. I’m here to bet you could do it even better.

Because how many times have you said something to a woman because, “women seem to laugh whenever I say this” or “the last girl I dated loved it when I did this?”

If you’re like me, your answer is quite a high number. And this type of “treating women the same” disease turns women off faster than calling her the wrong name in bed. It makes her think you want her only for her body… or… only because she has a pretty face. Not because of the woman she is, on the inside.

Knowing this, don’t you think it would be wise to get to know your woman’s “type” before you talk to her, date her or try to take things with her to the next level? You know, her “type” – the things that make her absolutely unique… and… determine what you need to do to make her fall in love with you.

To help you figure out her type, and to teach you about all the different types of women in general, I recorded a small, free video presentation. Which you can watch when you click the link below, right now:

It’s free. It’s quick. And it will tell you exactly how women fall in love with average guys like you and me.
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How Women Fall in Love With Men

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Make Women Fall in Love

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Get Women To Love You

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Make a Girl Fall in Love With You Step By Step

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What Makes Women Fall in Love

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Talk With Women

“How to talk with women so they listen to you, like you and want to give you their phone numbers… Knowing how to talk with women is tough when you don’t know what to say. Picture this: She’s pretty. So pretty, she makes your heart flutter, the second your eyes …

This is why I’m HOTT

Pisces born on March 12 brings creativity and grace to everything he or she does. They are adept at physical endeavors but can also impart their artistry to important life interests. They possess a spiritual intelligence. They are usually willing to sacrifice their interests to accommodate those they love, which they sometimes take too far.

Pisces Information for March 12

You should embrace: Discipline, direction, preparedness

You should avoid: Destructive impulses, confusion, guilt

Friends and Lovers

March 12 natives are engaging people with

a talent for friendship. They have difficulty maintaining permanence in their romantic life. This is likely to change once they reconcile their emotional strengths and weaknesses. Romance is a high art to these people.

Children and Family

Coming to grips with disappointments from childhood can be a challenge for those born on this date. Because of their reticence to criticize, they may never confront parents or siblings. As parents, they support the creative aspirations of their youngsters.


March 12 people understand the need to keep their life in balance, and that means physical exercise in addition to the pursuit of artistic ambitions. Also, people born on this day need to spend a lot of time alone to recharge their emotional and spiritual batteries.

Career and Finances

With so much artistic talent at their disposal, March 12 individuals are often drawn to creative professions. If they are unhappy or unfulfilled in their work, they cannot learn the lessons meant for them. They are not concerned with how much money they make.

Dreams and Goals

March 12 individuals need to reconcile their creative aspirations with the profound spirituality that dominates their life. Although these would seem to be compatible, their creativity sometimes raises ego issues that undermine spiritual goals. They are fantasy-oriented and require periodic escapes from reality.

The revolution will not be televised…

You will not be able to stay home, brother.
You will not be able to plug in, turn on and cop out.
You will not be able to lose yourself on skag and skip,
Skip out for beer during commercials,
Because the revolution will not be televised.

The revolution will not be televised.
The revolution will not be brought to you by Xerox
In 4 parts without commercial interruptions.
The revolution will not show you pictures of Nixon
blowing a bugle and leading a charge by John
Mitchell, General Abrams and Spiro Agnew to eat
hog maws confiscated from a Harlem sanctuary.
The revolution will not be televised.

The revolution will not be brought to you by the
Schaefer Award Theatre and will not star Natalie
Woods and Steve McQueen or Bullwinkle and Julia.
The revolution will not give your mouth sex appeal.
The revolution will not get rid of the nubs.
The revolution will not make you look five pounds
thinner, because the revolution will not be televised, Brother.

There will be no pictures of you and Willie May
pushing that shopping cart down the block on the dead run,
or trying to slide that color television into a stolen ambulance.
NBC will not be able predict the winner at 8:32
or report from 29 districts.
The revolution will not be televised.

There will be no pictures of pigs shooting down
brothers in the instant replay.
There will be no pictures of pigs shooting down
brothers in the instant replay.
There will be no pictures of Whitney Young being
run out of Harlem on a rail with a brand new process.
There will be no slow motion or still life of Roy
Wilkens strolling through Watts in a Red, Black and
Green liberation jumpsuit that he had been saving
For just the proper occasion.

Green Acres, The Beverly Hillbillies, and Hooterville
Junction will no longer be so damned relevant, and
women will not care if Dick finally gets down with
Jane on Search for Tomorrow because Black people
will be in the street looking for a brighter day.
The revolution will not be televised.

There will be no highlights on the eleven o’clock
news and no pictures of hairy armed women
liberationists and Jackie Onassis blowing her nose.
The theme song will not be written by Jim Webb,
Francis Scott Key, nor sung by Glen Campbell, Tom
Jones, Johnny Cash, Englebert Humperdink, or the Rare Earth.
The revolution will not be televised.

The revolution will not be right back after a message
bbout a white tornado, white lightning, or white people.
You will not have to worry about a dove in your
bedroom, a tiger in your tank, or the giant in your toilet bowl.
The revolution will not go better with Coke.
The revolution will not fight the germs that may cause bad breath.
The revolution will put you in the driver’s seat.

The revolution will not be televised, will not be televised,
will not be televised, will not be televised.
The revolution will be no re-run brothers;
The revolution will be live.

Ntozake: All my staff-For Coloured Girls

Somebody almost walked off wid alla my stuff

somebody almost walked off wid alla my stuff not my poems or a dance i gave up in the street but somebody almost walked off wid alla my stuff

like a kleptomaniac workin hard & forgettin while stealin this is mine/this aint yr stuff/now why don’t you put me back & let me hang out in my own self

somebody almost walked off wit alla my stuff & didn’t care enuf to send a note home sayin i was late for my solo conversation or two sizes to small for my own tacky skirts

what can anybody do wit somethin of no value ona open market/ did you getta dime for my things/hey man/ where are you goin wid alla my stuff/to ohh & ahh abt/ daddy/ i gotta mainline number from my own shit/ now wontcha put me back/ & let me play this duet/ wit silver ring in my nose/honest to god/

somebody almost run off wit alla my stuff/ & i didnt bring anythin but the kick & sway of it the perfect ass for my man & none of it is theirs this is mine/ ntozake ‘her own things’/ that’s my name now give me my stuff/ i see ya hidin my laugh/ & how is it wif my legs open sometimes/ to give me some sunlight/ & there goes my love my toes my chewed up finger nails/ niggah/ wif the curls in yr hair/mr. louisiana hot link/

i want my stuff back/my rhytums & my voice/ open my mouth/ & let me talk ya outta/ throwin my shit in the sewar/ this is some delicate leg & whimsical kiss/ i gotta have to give to my choice/without you runnin off wit alla my shit/now you cant have me less i give me away/ & i wazdoin all that/ til ya run off on a good thing/

who is this you left me wit/ some simple bitch widda bad attitude/ i wants my things/i want my arm wit the hot iron scar/ & my leg wit the flea bite/ i want my calloused feet & quik language backin my mouth/ fried plantains/ pineapple pear juice/ sun-ra & joseph & jules/ i want my own things/ how i lived them/& give me my memories/ how i waz when i waz there/you cant have them or do nothin wit them/

stealin my shit from me/ dont make it yrs/ makes it stolen/somebody almost run off wit alla my stuff/ & i waz standin there/ lookin at myself/ the whole time & it waznt a spirit took my stuff/ waz a man whose ego walked round like Rodan’s shadow/ waz a man fastern my innocence/

waz a lover/ i made too much room for/ almost run off wit alla my stuff/& i didnt know i’d give it up so quik/ & the one runnin wit it/don’t know he got it/ & i’m shoutin this is mine/ & he dont know he got it/ my stuff is the anonymous ripped off treasure of the year/

did you know somebody almost got away wit me/me in a plastic bag under their arm/ me danglin on a string of personal carelessness/ i’m spattered wit mud & city rain/ & no i didnt get a chance to take a douche/hey man/ this is not your perogative/ i gotta have me in my pocket/ to get round like a good woman shd/ & make the poemin the pot or the chicken in the dance/

what i got to do/i gotta get my stuff to do it to/why dont ya find yr own things/ & leave this package of me for my destiny/ what ya got to get from me/i’ll give it to ya/ yeh/ i’ll give it to ya/round 5:00 in the winter/ when the sky is blue-red/& Dew City is gettin pressed/ if it’s really my stuff/ya gotta give it to me/ if ya really want it/ i’m the only one/ can handle it

Steve Harvey introduces Jesus, me loves!

“Ladies and Gentlemen, it is my honor to introduce a man who needs no introduction. His credits are too long to list! He has done the impossible time after time! He hails out of a manger in Bethlehem and Jerusalem by way of Heaven!  His mother is still headlining in the Catholic church today! His Daddy is the author of a book that has been on the best seller list since the beginning of time! He holds the record for the world’s greatest fish fry! He fed five thousand hungry souls with two fish and five loaves of bread! He can walk on water, turn water into wine, no special effects, no camera tricks. He has a head shot on every church van across the country! Jesus, before the Kings of Comedy, he was hailed the King of all Kings, Ruler of the Universe, Alpha and Omega, beginning and the end, the bright and the Morning Star! Some say he is the Rose of Cherry Sharon [-?- Not sure this is what he said or not. If so, I am not sure what it means. EDIT: It’s from Song of Solomon 2:1 “I am the rose of Sharon, The lily of the valleys.” – C.H. – ] and some say he is the Prince of Peace. Get up on your feet, put your hands together and show your love for the Second Coming of the One and Only!”