My midlife crisis at 27!  Haai I dont know if I’ll ever get this right. So I’m turning 28 this year and I’m pretty confused about the whole thing.  I have a baseless fear of turning 30 I dont know why and how but its there…I feel like I have not met all my achievements, goal and dreams.

According to surveys and statistics by the time I’m 30 I should have 2.5 kids, be married and possibly moving up the corporate ladder. Its unrealistic I know but whats a girl to do? I have a dream of being a journalist living fabulously lavida loca in New York, (yes, sex and the city gave me false hope) and I believe its still gonna happen, but I just wish time could stand still so I can live all my dreams then get back to life. At 30 I shouldn’t be worrying about finding a husband right? I should have one, and in fact by Hollywood standards I should at least have two or three marriages under my belt…

Careers wise, in your early 20s no one takes you seriuously in the corporate world, companies are relutant to promote you because they think you will up and leave at anytime because opportubities are endless for you. By the time you reach your thirties the same company is not willing to promote you because you don’t have the necessarry experience for a leadership position… the same experience they denied you. Its a vicious circle

Then comes the love life. Heres one subject I’m no expert on…The last long term relationship I was in I was told that I’m not submissive enough. Yes in the 21th century there are still men who worry more about the egos then anything else. I have been hurt alot in love and I have hurt, and I played victim and that got me nowhere… So then I had pull mysself towards myself and get my life together. I have been in situations where guys say things like; ‘So I cant respect you then disrespect you’ this is the one time I let a guy know that I know what he wants and hes not gonna get it from me. Its one of those situations where you walk away with your head held high and your dignity in tact, and the guys left thinking ‘wow girls like that still exists?‘  Yes we do still exists but often we settle for jackassess because amongst many things the pressure that comes with being 30. Marriage

My friends and I joke about organizing a midlife crisis for when I turn 30. This came up after seeing grown women in their late 20s and early 30s loose their senses. We’ve seen very intelligent, beautiful women literally go crazy! I wonder if I’m ready for that at least!

I am  however grateful that at my age I have achieved things I thought were completely impossible. I am proud of my achievements. I know I could do more, don’t know if I have the time though??

I want the generations/top billing life and I want it now! Do you have fears or anxities about growing old?? Please share

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Dear Nhliziyo yam’ By Teboho Lebohang Mafanyolle

Dear Nhliziyo yam’

Have you realised how many times you make vital decisions that involve us all but we never have a say on them but when all goes haywire we have to be there to help you heal & move on stronger?

Have you realises how when you’re affected all our senses amazingly get affected too,we deprive ourselves of food, of sleep & constantly puffy eyed after loss?

You somehow manage to stupify even the considered intellectually inclined & all just operate as if floating on clouds.

So many try finding ways to depriving you of what you need & somehow you always win.

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‘What the mouth cannot express the letters will’ thnx Tebza this is so profound, seems like the heart has a life of its own.

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Death be not proud

Death be not proud, though some have called thee
Mighty and dreadfull, for, thou art not soe,
For, those, whom thou think’st, thou dost overthrow,
Die not, poore death, nor yet canst thou kill mee.
From rest and sleepe, which but thy pictures bee,
Much pleasure, then from thee, much more must flow,
And soonest our best men with thee doe goe,
Rest of their bones, and soules deliverie.
Thou art slave to Fate, Chance, kings, and desperate men,
And dost with poyson, warre, and sicknesse dwell,
And poppie, or charmes can make us sleepe as well,
And better then thy stroake; why swell’st thou then?
One short sleepe past, wee wake eternally,
And death shall be no more; death, thou shalt die.

John Donne

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RIP Roseline Itumeleng Sekese

Dear Tumi


I’m so sad and so sorry to hear about your passing. My heart is so heavy, I still can’t believe it! I f eel as though I was cheated or as if that one good thing I had saved for last has been taken from me. I just wish I could have a chat with you once more. I took for granted that you were close by and that I could always see you whenever I wanted. Boy am I late!!


On this random Wednesday morning I decided to give you a call, I didn’t have your numbers and decided to search on facebook, I didn’t even read what was written there but just called the number on the status. As Katleho explains I go further on and read! Ke kwatile! How dare you? Tumi how dare you not give me a chance to talk to you just one last time? Don’t know if it would have eased the pain…


I remember our days at Absa Wadeville and how we used to complain about how badly we were treated. You took a decision that most people wanted to take but never had the guts to. Tumi when you resigned I didn’t believe it but I was in awe. You were such a brave soul. You took ownership of everything you did and you never did things in half measures.


 I thank God that I got to know you, though it was for a short period. There was the distance and we lost contact but you have touched my life. I am grateful to your sister and mom for telling me about your passing. I wish I had known earlier, would have loved ho o feheletsa to your final resting place.


Tumi I’m at a loss for words… I wish your family and friends all the best and bestow blessings on their souls in Jesus name. Amen


Rest In Peace Ausi